Marital advice and tips for building a healthy and successful relationship Part 1

I want to share with you some marital advice that are essential to building a successful marriage, because building a successful marriage does not happen by accident. Couples who have had marital success, will tell you that it was as a result of implementing principles that make marriages work.

Through experience, studying, as well as getting marital advice from other married couples, I have been able to discover some of the key principles on how successful marriages are built and in this article I want to share with you these marriage tips that I know will help you in your quest to build a successful marriage.

Marital advice No: 1 in building a successful marriage is Patience.

The first marital advice I want to share with you if you want a successful marriage is to have a lot of patience. It’s inevitable that there will be conflicts between you and your spouse, one of the major ways of avoiding conflicts in marriage is to have a lot of patience. Your spouse will annoy you, they will upset you, they will sometimes be insensitive, cold and sometimes even misunderstand you.

One of the keys to maintaining a happy marriage is to have a lot of patience and turn a blind eye to many things that you would normally react to, don’t fly of the handle too quickly and don’t overreact to small issues. A soft answer will defuse a potentially explosive situation.

Marital Advice No: 2 – in building a successful marriage is Communication

The second marital advice I want to share with you is to make sure you develop effective communication with your husband or wife. I cannot stress the importance of communication enough and this is very much about listening as well as talking. No marriage succeeds without effective communication. Lack of good communication skills in marriage could potentially destroy the marriage.

The problem however is that this particular marital advice is one of the most difficult to implement. Good communication sometimes doesn’t come naturally especially for men who are not good at talking about how they feel. This lack of communication can sometimes lead to the women in our lives becoming very frustrated with us.

Unfortunately, the only time some couples speak to each other is when they are arguing. Even then, they are talking at each other and not talking to each other. click here to learn more about effective communication in marriage.

Marital advice No: 3 – in building a successful marriage is Selflessness

Another essential marital advice for building a successful marriage is that of selflessness. You should practice putting your partners needs before yours. One of the attributes of true love is sacrifice.

You need to be able to sacrifice for your husband or wife. The sacrifice of money, time, and attention. This means giving her that money to do her hair even though you already had plans for the money, or staying home with your wife because she needs you to even though you already planned to go out with your friends. And for the ladies it means allowing him to watch the sports on TV instead of trying to force him to talk to you when you know his favourite sport or TV programme is on.

Try not to be ‘me’ focused in marriage, always consider how your husband or wife will feel, let your primary motivation be to please your partner and make them happy. If both of you practice being selfless and focus on meeting each others needs, then ultimately your needs will also be met.

Marital Advice No: 4 – in building a successful marriage is Unconditional Love

The fourth marital advice I want to share with you is to love your spouse unconditionally. Love that only responds when things are good, or love that is only expressed when you and your spouse are on good terms is not true love, that is a conditional love which is only expressed when certain conditions are met, the moment those conditions fail to be met the love seizes to exist. This is not true love.

A lot of us married couples need to revisit our marriage vows, we promise to love or spouse for better or worse on the wedding day, but when the ‘for worse’ part of them starts to spring up we withdraw our love.

We need to practice loving our spouses not matter what. Even when its hard, even when your partner has upset you, even when they have been insensitive, even if they have gained a few pounds since you married them (those who only married for looks will struggle with that one, in which case the foundation of the marriage was already bad because you married for a wrong reason if it is purely based on looks).

What most of us do is repay good for good and evil for evil. True love and unconditional love responds in love even when your partner is being mean and evil. When you respond that way your partners conscience will make them recognise their guilt (assuming your partner has a conscience that is!) but if you also react angrily they will feel justified in their reaction and there will be yet another conflict.

by SirPaul12 on 2017-07-17 10:12:23